10 Self Love practices that really work| Why is self love important ?

Do you love yourself as you love the most special people of your life? My answer to this question few months ago was definitely a “no”.

If your answer is No too, this one is for you!

This idea of Self-love didn’t pop into my mind all of a sudden, it took me confusions, self-doubt, negative self-talks to finally coming to peace with myself.

Self Love is important because if you do not stand by yourself during tough times, encourage yourself during failures, take care of yourself during breakdowns, forgive your self after mistakes and grow from there, no one will!

Self Love is important ,as a person who is not happy can not make other happy.

These are few things I have learned about Self Love:

  1. Choose yourself above others some times:It is alright to walk out of a party early or not accept an invitation for Friday night party if that makes you uncomfortable. Saying No to a project when you are overworked or taking a day off for relaxing is your right, so never feel guilty about it.
  2. Nourish your brain, body and soul:Learn to take care of yourself. Nourish your body with healthy food, strengthen your body with exercise and relax you soul with regular yoga.Taking smallest possible steps towards making yourself feel healthier inside and outside.
  3. Wear clothes which make you, look like you: Wear clothes which makes you feel better about yourself. Clothing must enhance and reflect who you are.It is very common to feel obligated to dress up in a certain way, but remember that your are unique and so are your choices.
  4. Stop depending on others for happiness: Stop depending on your partners or friends  for happiness. It’s not your partner’s responsibility to make you happy. So, take yourself on a date, watch movie alone, and shop alone.Do everything that makes you happy and trust me, you can do it all by yourself
  5. Be there for yourself, in bad ugly and worst: Stop beating yourself for things that went wrong. Forgive yourself for the wrong decisions made. Remind yourself of all the good things  you have done.Write positive affirmations and count your achievements.
  6. Know your passion, keep doing what you love: Forgetting what you like when you have a job, a family to take care of  is very common .Try things you liked doing as a kid and you may find your passion. Take out at least 30 minutes a day to do things you really enjoy.
  7. Accept compliments with a thank you: We all of a habit to feel awkward at compliments. You must let yourself accept the compliments  and appreciations with a smile .It is not selfishness to feel proud about yourself.
  8. Take time to connect with yourself: We spend time in so much of distraction that we forget who we really are, what we like, dislike and what we want from life. It’s a good practice to disconnect with the world and reconnect to yourself by disconnecting from everything and spending time with ourselves.
  9. Don’t let other’s opinion bother us:Handling hatred and negativity is difficult but don’t let other’s opinion about you bother you. What matters the most is your own thoughts about yourself.let go off people who make you feel bad about yourself or who think they don’t need you
  10. Appreciate yourself for all the good things you have done for yourself in life: Write down your achievements on post its or sticky notes and paste these love notes in different place visible to you.Treat yourself with encouraging words even if you fail, like you would treat your best friend who lost a competition.

Hope you found this article helpful, I would love if you share your Self Love rituals or challenges. Please show some love to my article by leaving a comment ,liking and sharing it.

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7 hacks for New Mom to have some Me Time| How to take out time when you are a mom?

My family, my kids, my husband come first and then it’s me! Right?

Did all of you say“ YES” in a chorus ? Then I might need to break it to you in a polite but unapologetic tone that “ NO”

 

They definitely are ones’ I love the most in the world, but there are times when I put myself ahead of all .It’s important to keep yourself sane.

Try to understand this” You can not pour from an empty cup”

So, all I wan to say is ” It’s alright to leave your baby for a while with anyone you can trust and have some time for your own.

You deserve some ” Me Time” After so many hours of sleepless nights, feeding and caring!

These are few things you can do:

  1. Use their Nap time for yourself:  The only happy hour we get to ourselves as new moms is their NAP time. Make a list of the things you wanted to do and utilise this time when your baby is sleeping.
  2. Try getting earlier than your kid: I know it is little difficult if your baby keeps you awake at night. You can do it whenever you can. It will give you time to have your coffee when it’s actually hot (LOL). You can just relax and set a tone to a great day ahead.
  3. Draw out from chores your partner can do: Things like keeping clothes in the washing machine, arranging the sofa, keeping away the plates etc. are very simple chores and can be done by your partner or any one of your family members as well. So withdraw from such chores, it will give you some time for yourself.
  4. Batch meal plan, grocery list, online order etc : Try to get as much as possible done in one go. Start batching similar chores like making grocery list, meal plan or laundry, folding clothes etc.
  5. Take your baby along if you need some outing:  Stop staying indoors forever. Try going out whenever possible. You may go on a coffee with another mom and take your babies along.
  6. Know what you really like doing/Have a me menu: Have an agenda or list of thing you love doing, food you love eating, people you love talking to, and hobbies at on place. As and when you get time, you should know what exactly you would like to do.
  7. Start small:  Taking out time for yourself might seem extremely overwhelming when you have a baby. Start with the smallest possible thing you can do for yourself, even if it is for couple of minutes.

You can do a lot better if you feel happy and content. Taking even fifteen minutes everyday can be very helpful.

Hope you found this article helpful, I would love if you share your Me time rituals or challenges. Please show some love to my article by leaving a comment ,liking and sharing it.

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!

Maternity Law in India| What are your benefits in Indian Maternity Law ?

What is Maternity Law?

The Maternity Benefit Act 1961 is an act that allows women to go on a paid leave during and/or after pregnancy to take care of her baby.

Eligibility:

As per the act, in order to be eligible for Maternity Leave, you must have been working in the organisation for past 80 days.

 What are your benefits?

  • You can avail paid leave up to 26 weeks.
  • You can start your leave 8 weeks before your delivery date and remaining can be taken after delivery.
  • You can avail only 12 weeks of leave if it’s your 3rd
  • You can enjoy work from home if the nature of your work allows so. It requires your employer’s consent.
  • Any organisation with 50 plus employee must provide you a Creche facility.
  • You will be allowed to visit the creche 4 times a day, including your rest intervals.

 

 

How to stay healthy in your late 30’s?| Health Care tips for Woman in their late 20’s or 30’s

 

Your 20s is the time when you can experiment with your hair colour to your dressing sense. Eating junk to skipping meals to eating as many chocolates as you want. Once you hit your 30s, it’s time for you to stop experimenting and start settling to a healthier lifestyle.

This is my list of health care for women in their late 20s or 30s:

  1. List out simple traditional home food that you totally love: Homemade food is a treat you can enjoy every day. Creating a list of your home food will help you to avoid eating out every other day. It is especially helpful if you are someone who stays away from family or have young kids at home.
  2. Find out a work out you love: You must have been through experiences where you enrolled yourself to a gym class or aerobics classes but backed out as you could not enjoy it or were too lazy to go to the classes. If that is the case with you, please find out easy workout routine like simple walk in the park or even dancing every day to your favourite music.
  3. Go for regular body checkups: Make it a habit to go for regular checkups. Know a doctor you trust. Do regular breast examination yourself. Ensure you take the supplements prescribed on time. Maintain healthy routine as advised by your doctor.
  4. Say no to chemicals: Say NO to chemical base skin care products. Start using natural products as much as possible. Ditch costly chemicals based facial products and use homemade facials products like besan ubtan, alovera pack, multani mitti .It will not only save you money but also keep your skin healthier forever.
  5. Move More: Develop a habit to avoid sitting as much as possible. Stand up and move whenever you can. Sitting is terrible for your health. Be mindful to make a move if you have been sitting for long. Get up from your office desk, walk across the floor, to the water station or even to your friend’s desk.
  6. Learn from your family’s health History: Understand your family’s health history and maintain your lifestyle accordingly. If your family has a history of diabetes, lower down sugar intake. If there had been weight issues, work out. Being little aware can make a huge difference.
  7. Deal with stress: Ignoring stress can affect you adversely on your quality of sleep can cause depression and can lead to several diseases in turn. Seek help from friend and family. If your job or particular thing is causing you stress, leave it, don’t be scared of not getting any other job, you will find something better.
  8. Take calcium supplements: In your 30s, you lose more bone and muscles than you produce. Take proper supplement for calcium. It will save you from any unwanted bone conditions. Your doctor can suggest you the right quantity of supplements required.
  9. Get yourself some sunlight: Getting enough of sunlight will ensure that you get right amount of Vitamin D and it will also keep your hormone in check. Sunlight is known to activate happiness quotient your body and make you more active and energetic.
  10. Drink a lot of Water: Start your day with a glass of lukewarm water. Water will keep your skin, your digestive system healthy. It will flush out toxins from your body. It will reduce unwanted hunger and maintain your weight. Make your water bottle your best friend.
  11. Take care of your teeth: No matter how you have been treating your teeth in your 20s, it’s time that you start taking care of your teeth.Say no to excess sweets and candies. Visit your dentist regularly, brush twice and floss regularly.
  12. Reduce your screen time: Life today is occupied with screen time ranging from laptop at work to TV to mobile phone. Please unplug and start enjoying the real life. Reducing screen time will help you to save your ideas and your brain.
  13. Stop binge watching: Eat mindfully. Quit the habit of eating while you watch Netflix or check Facebook. You need to know what and how much you are eating. So now that you are in your 30s, how about actually sitting down on your dining table and eating your food.
  14. Value your relationships: I am sure you have now realised that the most valuable possession you have are your relationships. Please take care of people who really matter to you. Make them your priority. Take out time and spend quality time with your parents, partner and kinds.

Start taking care of yourself as much as possible, even small steps goes a long way. What are your favourite Health Care tips or rituals? Please show some love to my post by Liking, Sharing and Commenting.

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!

 

2019 New Year Resolution|How to successfully implement our new year resolution?

 

 

Every year gives us an opportunity to write a fresh chapter of our life.This is the time when we try to learn a new skill, start a healthy eating habit, start going to gym or start getting up early.Its almost everyone’s’ thing to buy a new notebook , make a long list of changes we want to bring in. keep it somewhere safe and never touch it again.

Its time  again and I am going to find out my favourite notebook and clean up the dust from it.

I know its little early to be announcing my new year resolution.This was required as I have made new year resolutions every year but failed being consistent with it.

So even before I started making a list I wanted to make a difference this year by finding the actual reasons I failed in implementing my goals every year.

I brain stormed and found a few reason due to which I wan not able to implement my new year goals.

Lets see what they are:

  1. I forgot what my goals were: The biggest reason I could not achieve my goals was I never remembered what they were.I would write them but never get back to them. This year my goals will be always in front of my eyes. I am going to display it on a place its visible to me.I will ensure I check it first thing in the morning every day. Something like a vision board will be great.
  2. There were too many to do’s on my list: I had too much on my plate.I made such a long list that got overwhelming for me.Its confusing to prioritise which one is important and which one is not.  Moreover, it’s a human tendency to give up if  thing to do looks so complicated.So this year I am going to keep my list very short.
  3. My yearly goals were not leading me to actual goals:Most of the things on my list were leading me nowhere.They were not aligned to my goals or who I wanted to be. It was not really helping me in achieving anything that could improve my life.So this year , I will first analyse my vision for life and then make a list which gets me closer to my ultimate goal.
  4. I was never emotionally invested in my list:  A lot of thing in the list were not important for me.I was not emotionally attached to them.If you do not feel for your goals , you will not feel bad in missing them. This year my list will have things which really matter to me.It will be something that I really want to achieve.
  5. I wanted it easily: I always assumed that  once I have created a list , I will start doing them all without any effort. I forgot, a change is never going to be easy. I have to be little tough on myself. So this year  I will just get up and do it. It’s important to be tough on yourself sometimes.This year,I will keep my goals realistic and be little tough on myself.

Hope this is the year of your dreams! Please show some love for my article by liking ,sharing and commenting on it. I would love to hear what your New Year Resolutions are and how you are planning to achieve them.

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!