Month: February 2019

I have been in role of a home maker and now a working mom. Both have challenges of their own. No one needs to be in other’s shoes.

It’s worth less to compare mangoes to apples.

You are successful, amazing, smart and beautiful in your own unique way.

These are few things that worked for me:

• Know that you have the right over finances of your home: I have stayed at home for several months without a job and realised that it is important to have right to finances at your home. You do not need to believe that you are dependent. Remember, whatever the source of money is, you have complete right on it. So next time you ask for money, let go off your guilt or anger about it. You are doing enough of your share at home. There is nothing more meaningful than nurturing and taking care of your home.

• Stay above the drama: Chose to ignore/ avoid or stop reacting to behaviors that hurt you. Stop being hurt. Ask yourself if that is worth your attention? Is that making your life any better? If your answer is No, please distance yourself from this situation. Remember that a person trying to hurt you, bad mouth about you is insecure and wants to make you feel bad. Feel sorry for them and move on. I know it’s easy to say but practice will help. Divert your attention from petty things and focus to things that can make your life better like focus on making your room look better, learn something that you wanted, dance , sing or anything.

• Respect other women: I have seen best of people making comment on others looks, character and dressing. Please know, it’s easy to teach your brain to make fun of people, judge them, but doesn’t that hurt your real self, who is kinder, calmer and has a real beautiful character. Stand by integrity, if you have a real problem, go talk but avoid bad mouthing. Compliment and support other women, congratulate and learn from their success. Remember “Empowered women, empower women.

• Enjoy your own company: I love my husband a lot and I did realize that I always needed him around, to go out with, to compliment, to complaining and everything else. Learn to create your own little support system, have few friends and if you don’t have many like me, learn to enjoy things alone as well. Go shop, eat out, go for a movie. Try these things and let me know how your experience was?

• Live in Now:  This something I learned very late in my life. Having a vison for future is important but worrying about future or dwelling in past won’t help. Forgive, forget things that happened or may happen, enjoy the present. For example, forget the fight you had yesterday and move on. Don’t spoil the beauty of today for tomorrow.

• Practice your passion:  My experience as a homemaker, taught me that the only way to be happy is to practice your passion. Find out what you love, it can be anything like writing, singing, painting, designing and practice it at least an hour a day. If you can’t go it, find courses online, on YouTube. Do it for nothing but love. Don’t pressurize yourself with an intention of earning money, do it for fun. It will help you boost your confidence and make you a happier person.

• Bonus:  Dress up every day, it make a huge difference in the way you fell about yourself and your confidence level. Don’t stop shopping as you don’t go out much. Take care of yourself, pamper yourself at home or parlor. Exercise and meditate, these habits have proven affects not only on our body but on our mood and happiness level.

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This week was extremely tough, I looked at Abhi, my husband, who definitely loves our daughter a lot but when it comes to taking care of her for an entire day, he is not very confident. I told him I was tired and needed a day off with my friends, and he looked at me with a blank expression.

“You are taking care of the baby today (I made it sound like a decision)”, I said pretending to be confident and handing him the Baby Dove Baby Wipes. “Here, it’s the first weapon you would need in the day, rest I trust you will figure out.”

I am not sure what was going through his mind. He said ‘Yes’ in a tone which sounded more like a ‘No’ but I didn’t seem to care this time. https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/preeti-roy/article/stepping-into-mommy-shoes-daddy-s-day-with-baby?lang=0

Do you rely on your family members to order for you when out for dinner? Do you feel stuck while deciding which dress to buy? Do you depend on your partner to make all major and minor financial decisions for you? If your answer to any of these questions is Yes then this is the article for you.

Decision making is a power that comes with responsibility. If you notice the decisions makers a normally associated with Power and Success.

I was no different a few years ago but I started taking small steps towards gaining confidence to make bigger decisions for life.

It worked for me , I am sure it will help you as well:

• Start deciding the food to order or the menu for dinner & Pick up the best dress for yourself.

• Have opinions. Know that it is ok to have your own opinion about any thing.Feel free to express it with dignity and grace.

•Get into habit of Researching about the subject before taking a decision.

• Strengthen your confidence to make better decisions

. Lack of confidence leads to dependence on other for decision making

• Learn to enjoy things alone.Go out to movies, shopping or travelling alone .Your life should not depend on anyone else’s company

You are the Queen of your house and crown comes with the responsibility of decisions.

Your life is the reflections of decisions you make .

How are you at decision making?

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Life changes a lot after becoming a mother. Your child becomes your first priority.

You may or may not have someone to support your kid while you are at work. Some moms are able to find a day care they can trust and some are not able to trust any.

I remember, scrolling through google pages every day to find out, work form or stay at home job options for moms.

You may decide to continue your full time job or may take a decision to become a stay at home mom. Both the decisions are correct and I feel you.

However, I realised that financial Independence is required to keep your head held high (I am not judging any one here).

It doesn’t matter if you have worked in past or not, what matters is your willingness to work.

You can earn well, if you are ready to learn what it takes to reach there

I have researched a few job categories that can help you earn as well as allow you to stay at home with your baby.

1.Yoga Trainer– You may have noticed how people have started becoming more inclined towards Yoga nowadays. If you browse through your neighborhood, you will find people who want to get trained in Yoga but are not able to go far due to lack of time or may be because they have a job. You may start yoga training classes at your home and earn decent.

How to get the Certification? There are free government yoga tutorials available in city. You might need to pay for the certification. I am providing you two links which might be helpful for you.

Centers for yoga: http://ayush.gov.in/about-the-systems/yoga/centers-one-month-free-yoga-classes-11-districts-delhi

Certification: http://theyogainstitute.org/two-year-ttc/?gclid=Cj0KCQiA-onjBRDSARIsAEZXcKYiuSDv_ej8S5FrcBxgT4AHUibJBYVlbi-8wyxl9WBdyFn0eYEbAFAaAjNnEALw_wcB

2. Create your own E learning/ Online tutorials in your area of expertise– If you are someone who has worked in past then you can create your own tutorials for different skills like MS Office, knitting, singing, yoga or anything that you can teach.

How to create online courses? There are different platform like Coursera, Udemy, YouTube where you can become online teachers. All you have to do is search for the term ” How to create tutorials on Udemy / Coursera?” or How to upload video on you tube?” on google or YouTube and you will be flooded with free lessons.

How to create courses on Udemy? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2xhFTb4G04

3. Create videos on You Tube: You can create videos on YouTube, for anything that you know. I have seen videos on wide range of topics like knitting, stitching, gardening, cooking, singing, dancing and many more doing well. Record your video and upload.

How to create and upload video? It is an easy task and the best thing is the content matters more than anything else. If your content is original, you can earn well.

Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXawy4vV404

4. Start Home tutorials: The classic and the best way to earn while you are staying at home is giving tutions. There is no family who doesn’t need tutors but like other field, this also needs you to brush up your skills. Refresh yourself and do your homework before you get in this business started

How to get started? There are different consultants who can help you getting tutions but to start a coaching at home, try promoting by getting a board done. Try distributing pamphlet to nearby shops, grocery stores etc.

5. You can sell online: If you are creative, you like painting, handicraft, make dresses, you can sell them online too. Companies like amazon, Paytm etc. can sell your products. All you have to do is become a Merchant and get registered with them

How to start? It’s normally a simple process and you can get yourself registered with them easily. Here is a tutorial that can help you.

Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bC-269lv9l0

Which your favourite idea amongst these?

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You would not even realise when the time with your Lo fly away and it’s time to get back to your job.

Its not easy to take a decision, all you have to do is understand what would make you happy.

There is no right or wrong decision. You may quit anytime if it doesn’t work for you , you may restart any time if you are not really enjoying SAHM life

Be prepared for challenges when you get back to work.

A lot of things may change by the time you are back. Right from strategies to manager to behavior of your collegues.

It can be really overwhelming, you might feel left out or may even feel discriminated.

All you have to do is hold your ground.

Once you make up your mind, get prepared with a positive and open mindset as you may notice certain changes when you, get back to work.

Skill up– Ensure you keep yourself updated with going trend, if you get some time during your maternity leave, go for learning a new skill online. I started my leave little earlier and I used it in learning few skills which could upgrade my knowledge. This would clear up your intentions and attitude towards work.

Face it like a beginner: 6 months of maternity leave, is a long duration, you may notice changes in the work methods, software or policies. All you need to do is maintain your calm and observe and learn like a beginner. Ask for refresher sessions and shadow collegues to gain a clear concept.

Set the right expectations: It’s the time when you should be focusing more on your baby.  Discuss on work from home options, flexible timings, longer breaks or more leaves before joining back. Most of the organizations are supportive enough but you need to ask for what you need.

Try living in moments: Be completely focused at work and limit your baby related discussions at work. Likewise don’t take your work to home. Say No if someone expects you to work after office hours or on weekends. I am a mother and I totally understand that it is difficult but you can master the art with practice.

Don’t compete with people who are stretching hours at work: Remember your real talent is not in staying back at work but adding a real value. Give 100 percent at work and don’t try to be part of the rat race. Put in efforts wisely and don’t do anything that doesn’t add value.

Take initiatives: Make suggestions give ideas and feedback that can improve the process. Try taking initiatives. You do not need to wait for a work but you can come up with things which helps the team and the organisation grow.This is the right time to bring in the experience you had at work and implement for good.

Don’t feel Guilty:   Don’t feel guilty for taking a day off or leaving early, don’t feel bad to leave the bay with someone else in short it is alright to prioritise your personal life more than your work right now.It is going to be all balanced with time. Try planning out day offs in advance, take help form family and it will all be fine.

Teach your colleagues to take you seriously: It’s a very common behaviour to ignore and underestimate the talent and attitude of a women returning to work. If any ones’ behaviour or activity suggests you the same, talk it out. Do not judge your abilities and don’t let people judge you. Don’t take it personally,these things don’t define you.

Believe: Don’t self-doubt your success. You have given birth to a living miracle, anything you want in your life is achievable. Prepare yourself to grow and reach your goals. Speak out and carry your self with confidence.

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Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!