Be little more happier: 6 things happier women do differently

I looked at my phone and kept looking at the beautiful photographs of my social media family, I smiled looking at their beautiful vacation photographs, I envied a bit at their amazing stylish dresses, I was amazed to see their impeccable houses.  By the time I was done checking out all the profiles, I was already low on energy, thinking how happy everyone else was.

Not that I haven’t read tons of articles on how we must not be affected by social media lime light and how It’s just everyone’s best side out there.

Still, it made me feel little bitter.

I was interrupted by my Lo pulling my hand to play with her .I switched off my phone and decided to spend the rest of the day connected to people rather than pictures.

It was hardly 10 minutes when I realized, ow happy my life is. My house might be messy, my dresses might not be perfect but my life is beautiful.

Point I am trying to make is, the way pour life have turned, it is impossible to stay unaffected by stress, we may feel low and sad at time, but all we need to do is get back on our feet every time we feel like giving up.

These are 6 favorite ways to cope up with stress and low self-esteem on difficult days:

  1. Know what you really value in life: You must know
  2. Choose your thought and responses wisely
  3. Keep a good Company
  4. Spend time with your people
  5. Have a passion
  6. Practice Self love

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Letter to the understated parent in the parenting: the daddy cool


Dear Daddy cool,

I hear you. I know I have been ranting continuously about my challenges about giving birth, taking care of the toddler and the long sleepless nights, but I know you have through all this with me.

I see you every morning, waking up with puffy eyes yet a smile on your face. You were awake all night along with the baby, so I could rest for my back. I know I didn’t thank you enough but I am glad my daughter got a super doting daddy like you.

 I know the only reason you shifted near my office so that me and our daughter could spend more time together. I want to thanks you for travelling across two cities every day to let me and my daughter be together for longer.

I know you love us more than anything else in the world, at least your eyes proved the same when I was in pain. I can see how focused and responsible you have become after becoming a dad.

You don’t even let us realize how tired you are every evening.  I know you are working hard to make our life comfortable and we are so proud of you.

 I love watching you when you make her sleep, humming lullabies.

The other day in the restaurant, you waited with baby in your arms, so that I can eat at peace. I could see surprised eyes looking at us. I know I have never told you enough but you really are the daddy cool.

You help me hold it all together. I know I keep bragging, how well I am juggling my life, what I never told you how you are real force which helps me keep it all together.

So today, I want to thank you for all the nights you were awake with us, all the days where you were smiling even after all the chaos.

Thank you for being there as the pillar of strength in our lives.

P.S please postpone your all boys’ party next weekend and take us out (wink wink)

We love you!!

A big shout out to all the cool dads out there!

Hope you enjoyed reading this blog. What is you favourite daddy baby moment? I would love to hear from you!

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!

Becoming a mom makes you better at mom:

My baby came to my life and made the life beautiful. This is an amazing feeling to be around your little one. Becoming a mother is a life changing experience. It affects you in ways, you could never think about. Apart from the hectic and tedious life around diapers, cleaning and feeding, there were other things which were changing too.

It did not happen all of a sudden but gradually one day at a time, mother hood made me a stronger human being, a better leader and excellent decision maker.

Most of the women have to prove themselves again after coming back from maternity leaves, we have to face motherhood penalty, in form of no promotion, less hike and behavior differences.

Doubting your intention to come back to work to doubting your capability to work after becoming a mother. Becoming a mom, gives a right to almost strangers to ask you questions like, how and why you are leaving your baby for work and how selfish were you to get back to work.

The widely help assumption eventually becomes a firm belief that you will not be able to focus on your work.

According to Dr Pilyoung, associate professor of psychology at the University of Denver says that the brains of women grow after having children. They noticed structural growth in several brain regions, like midbrain region, which plays an important role in developing ‘maternal instinct,’ and the prefrontal cortex region, which is involved in decision making, learning, and regulating our feeling and thoughts, over the first three to four months of motherhood.”

Amy Henderson of Tend lab performed research on this exact topic she noticed that the majority of the mothers were performing better in their careers because of their kids, not in spite of them.

Becoming a mom, is a miracle and that make us a magician.

Slowly and steadily we grow with our baby our brain grows along:

These are the ways you grow after becoming a mom

You become a better leader: Moms do make great leaders as you learn the importance of care and personalization like you do with your kids. Motherhood teaches us to let go off anything that is uncontrollable. It becomes our habit to know our priorities and take tough decisions. It teaches us involvement and helping other learn. It makes us patients and trains us to believe and not give up on people easily.

You become resilient: We become resilient as we become moms. We have a capability of handling number of sleepless nights with equally productive days. We are capable of balancing our act when we have demanding guests at home, naughty toddlers and a demanding project at work. We gain confidence to fix things, no matter how difficult it gets

You become solution oriented: As a mom of kids who tell you about their project at the last minute, to a toddler who spoils the party dress at the last minute, you become solution oriented. We learn to find a solution for every issue. That inculcates in us an approach to focus on solution for every problem. You always have a plan B ready to tackle the issue.

We master the art of prioritizing: I thought, becoming a mom will make my life complicated and I may get overwhelmed. But in reality, I came to realize what is important and what is not. I have understood as a mother that, my to do list is never ending, so I have to pick the top tasks every day and perform. The same theory works for work as well. I have become better at setting boundaries at work or home. I

We learn decision making: We have to take small to big decisions every day in life. We have to decide what is healthy for our toddlers, we have to find a good school, we decide what dresses they will wear. We become a better decision maker as you learn the art of researching and taking risk. We get confidant with our decision making powers with our practice at home.

Dear moms, know that you are doing a commendable job. You have no limits. Don’t believe if any one tries to tell you otherwise. You must have high ambition as you can become anything and everything you want at any point in your life. All you need is one person to have faith in you and that person is you.

Why are women less ambitious than men?

Do you think that we women are less ambitious than men? Well I don’t think so if I look at great examples like Indira Nooyi, Chanda Kochar and Priyanka chopra.

But when I look at myself and my other friend like me, I can see the dying aspiration to grow (not my current truth).

You may not hear this statement form people directly but may feel the powerful message through certain behaviors during and assignment or wicked smile on new suggestions made in a meeting.

I have studied this survey report (Courtesy www.bcg.com)

In words of bcg.com: They analyzed employee survey data from two global BCG data sources, comprising more than 200,000 respondents. Their findings reflected that Women are as ambitious and willing as male employees. What creates a difference is the support provided in the

So, being a woman, being a mother or having a family does not make a woman less ambitious

 Women are not less ambitious but less women are ambitious.

I am not talking only about a career or a job, as just staying in one role and growing is not being ambitious .I am also talking about our ambition to stay fit, look good and take care of our self.

How and when does this die in us?                        

Have you ever cited to yourself” I am comfortable in this job” or “I don’t want this promotion” or “I need to focus on my kids”. Have you ever said that “this position or company is good for mother so I am not changing my job” Or I don’t need more money.

Do you ever call your husband “the main bread earner of the family?”

IF answer to all these questions is a Yes then this is a must read for you.

I remember myself as the one with limitless dreams and ambition as a kid. I grew up believing that I can be anything I want.

But if I look at myself now, I cannot relate with the same ambitious child I was.

I am not in this journey alone, I have notice a lot of women like me compromising on their potential and calling it “Work Life Balance”

We stop feeling the urge to grow as we get married and have kids.

What are reasons that forces us to stop from being successful

  • We believe that we cannot have our own ambitions after marriage. We are brought up in a way where we believe that a woman’s life should only be revolving around her family.    Honestly my marriage has provided me enough of cushion to re think and re discover my dreams and passion.
  • Fear to be more successful than our man: I know that it doesn’t hold true for everyone but it has been a part of our thought process since ages. We have considered our careers secondary and made all h sacrifices required on day to day basis.
  • Salary disparity: Women have been paid less since ages. There is a known salary gap between a man and woman employee. So even if we want, our partners remain the main bread earners of the family and obviously his salary matters more
  • Fear of how success looks like:  Any big dream can scare you, as we don’t really know what it actually looks and feels like. People have always ridiculed success and money. People have been taught that success is evil .But the reality is far from this. Success is nothing materialistic, but a feeling of content and has very little to do with money.
  • Fear of hard work: All my life I wanted to follow my occasion, do different things but I could not get that much courage to put in extra effort. But honestly now that I am writing, I realised that putting in little effort every day, learning little every day is all that makes a huge difference in long run.
  • Lack of confidence: A lot of time we underestimate our potentials ourselves. We don’t believe in our talent. We take it lightly and ae mentally prepared to let it go. It’s good to priorities your family and sacrifice for them but it’s equally important to look after yourself and do what keep you happy and satisfied.
  • Lack of support at work place: It become easier if our work place understand that being a woman, being a mom come with different set of responsibility. Reports says that organisations with flexible work culture have better success rates for women.

My message to every wonderful lady reading my article:

“Dear Womum, you are amazing. You are free, you can do everything you want to. You are above every comparison and judgement. Dream and dream big, the success awaits you! “

I hope you found this article helpful. What are your biggest ambition in life? Please do let me know by commenting below.

Believe and good things will happen to you!

Lokah Samastah sukhino bhavantu!