I looked at my phone and kept looking at the beautiful
photographs of my social media family, I smiled looking at their beautiful
vacation photographs, I envied a bit at their amazing stylish dresses, I was
amazed to see their impeccable houses.
By the time I was done checking out all the profiles, I was already low
on energy, thinking how happy everyone else was.
Not that I haven’t read tons of articles on how we must not
be affected by social media lime light and how It’s just everyone’s best side
Still, it made me feel little bitter.
I was interrupted by my Lo pulling my hand to play with her
.I switched off my phone and decided to spend the rest of the day connected to
people rather than pictures.
It was hardly 10 minutes when I realized, ow happy my life
is. My house might be messy, my dresses might not be perfect but my life is
Point I am trying to make is, the way pour life have turned,
it is impossible to stay unaffected by stress, we may feel low and sad at time,
but all we need to do is get back on our feet every time we feel like giving
These are 6 favorite ways to cope up with stress and low self-esteem
on difficult days:
I hear you. I know I have been ranting continuously about my challenges about giving birth, taking care of the toddler and the long sleepless nights, but I know you have through all this with me.
I see you every morning, waking up with puffy eyes yet a
smile on your face. You were awake all night along with the baby, so I could
rest for my back. I know I didn’t thank you enough but I am glad my daughter got
a super doting daddy like you.
I know the only
reason you shifted near my office so that me and our daughter could spend more
time together. I want to thanks you for travelling across two cities every day to
let me and my daughter be together for longer.
I know you love us more than anything else in the world, at least
your eyes proved the same when I was in pain. I can see how focused and
responsible you have become after becoming a dad.
You don’t even let us realize how tired you are every evening. I know you are working hard to make our life
comfortable and we are so proud of you.
I love watching you when
you make her sleep, humming lullabies.
The other day in the restaurant, you waited with baby in
your arms, so that I can eat at peace. I could see surprised eyes looking at us.
I know I have never told you enough but you really are the daddy cool.
You help me hold it all together. I know I keep bragging, how
well I am juggling my life, what I never told you how you are real force which helps
me keep it all together.
So today, I want to thank you for all the nights you were
awake with us, all the days where you were smiling even after all the chaos.
Thank you for being there as the pillar of strength in our
P.S please postpone your all boys’ party next weekend and
take us out (wink wink)
We love you!!
A big shout out to all the cool dads out there!
Hope you enjoyed reading this blog. What is you favourite daddy baby moment? I would love to hear from you!
My baby came to my life and made the life beautiful. This is
an amazing feeling to be around your little one. Becoming a mother is a life
changing experience. It affects you in ways, you could never think about. Apart
from the hectic and tedious life around diapers, cleaning and feeding, there
were other things which were changing too.
It did not happen all of a sudden but gradually one day at a
time, mother hood made me a stronger human being, a better leader and excellent
Most of the women have to prove themselves again after
coming back from maternity leaves, we have to face motherhood penalty, in form
of no promotion, less hike and behavior differences.
Doubting your intention to come back to work to doubting
your capability to work after becoming a mother. Becoming a mom, gives a right
to almost strangers to ask you questions like, how and why you are leaving your
baby for work and how selfish were you to get back to work.
The widely help assumption eventually becomes a firm belief
that you will not be able to focus on your work.
According to Dr
Pilyoung, associate professor of psychology at the University of Denver says
that the brains of women grow after having children. They noticed structural
growth in several brain regions, like midbrain region, which plays an important
role in developing ‘maternal instinct,’ and the prefrontal cortex region, which
is involved in decision making, learning, and regulating our feeling and
thoughts, over the first three to four months of motherhood.”
Amy Henderson of Tend
lab performed research on this exact topic she noticed that the majority of the
mothers were performing better in their careers because of their kids, not in
spite of them.
Becoming a mom, is a
miracle and that make us a magician.
Slowly and steadily we grow with our baby our brain grows
These are the ways
you grow after becoming a mom
You become a better
leader: Moms do make great leaders as you learn the importance of care and
personalization like you do with your kids. Motherhood teaches us to let go off
anything that is uncontrollable. It becomes our habit to know our priorities
and take tough decisions. It teaches us involvement and helping other learn. It
makes us patients and trains us to believe and not give up on people easily.
You become resilient:
We become resilient as we become moms. We have a capability of handling number
of sleepless nights with equally productive days. We are capable of balancing
our act when we have demanding guests at home, naughty toddlers and a demanding
project at work. We gain confidence to fix things, no matter how difficult it
You become solution
oriented: As a mom of kids who tell you about their project at the last
minute, to a toddler who spoils the party dress at the last minute, you become
solution oriented. We learn to find a solution for every issue. That inculcates
in us an approach to focus on solution for every problem. You always have a
plan B ready to tackle the issue.
We master the art of
prioritizing: I thought, becoming a mom will make my life complicated and I
may get overwhelmed. But in reality, I came to realize what is important and
what is not. I have understood as a mother that, my to do list is never ending,
so I have to pick the top tasks every day and perform. The same theory works
for work as well. I have become better at setting boundaries at work or home. I
We learn decision
making: We have to take small to big decisions every day in life. We have
to decide what is healthy for our toddlers, we have to find a good school, we decide
what dresses they will wear. We become a better decision maker as you learn the
art of researching and taking risk. We get confidant with our decision making
powers with our practice at home.
Dear moms, know that you are doing a commendable job. You
have no limits. Don’t believe if any one tries to tell you otherwise. You must
have high ambition as you can become anything and everything you want at any
point in your life. All you need is one person to have faith in you and that
person is you.
Do you think that we women are less ambitious than men? Well
I don’t think so if I look at great examples like Indira Nooyi, Chanda Kochar
and Priyanka chopra.
But when I look at myself and my other friend like me, I can see the dying aspiration to grow (not my current truth).
You may not hear this
statement form people directly but may feel the powerful message through certain
behaviors during and assignment or wicked smile on new suggestions made in a
I have studied this survey
report (Courtesy www.bcg.com)
In words of bcg.com: They analyzed employee survey
data from two global BCG data sources, comprising more than 200,000
respondents. Their findings reflected that Women are as ambitious and willing
as male employees. What creates a difference is the support provided in the
So, being a woman, being a mother or having a family does
not make a woman less ambitious
Women are not less
ambitious but less women are ambitious.
I am not talking only about a career or a job, as just
staying in one role and growing is not being ambitious .I am also talking about
our ambition to stay fit, look good and take care of our self.
How and when does
this die in us?
Have you ever cited to yourself” I am comfortable in this
job” or “I don’t want this promotion” or “I need to focus on my kids”. Have you
ever said that “this position or company is good for mother so I am not
changing my job” Or I don’t need more money.
Do you ever call your husband “the main bread earner of the
IF answer to all these questions is a Yes then this is a
must read for you.
I remember myself as the one with limitless dreams and
ambition as a kid. I grew up believing that I can be anything I want.
But if I look at myself now, I cannot relate with the same
ambitious child I was.
I am not in this journey alone, I have notice a lot of women
like me compromising on their potential and calling it “Work Life Balance”
We stop feeling the urge to grow as we get married and have
What are reasons that forces us to stop from being
We believe that we cannot have our own ambitions after marriage. We are brought up in a way where we believe that a woman’s life should only be revolving around her family. Honestly my marriage has provided me enough of cushion to re think and re discover my dreams and passion.
Fear to be more successful than our man: I know that it doesn’t hold true for everyone but it has been a part of our thought process since ages. We have considered our careers secondary and made all h sacrifices required on day to day basis.
Salary disparity: Women have been paid less since ages. There is a known salary gap between a man and woman employee. So even if we want, our partners remain the main bread earners of the family and obviously his salary matters more
Fear of how success looks like: Any big dream can scare you, as we don’t really know what it actually looks and feels like. People have always ridiculed success and money. People have been taught that success is evil .But the reality is far from this. Success is nothing materialistic, but a feeling of content and has very little to do with money.
Fear of hard work: All my life I wanted to follow my occasion, do different things but I could not get that much courage to put in extra effort. But honestly now that I am writing, I realised that putting in little effort every day, learning little every day is all that makes a huge difference in long run.
Lack of confidence: A lot of time we underestimate our potentials ourselves. We don’t believe in our talent. We take it lightly and ae mentally prepared to let it go. It’s good to priorities your family and sacrifice for them but it’s equally important to look after yourself and do what keep you happy and satisfied.
Lack of support at work place: It become easier if our work place understand that being a woman, being a mom come with different set of responsibility. Reports says that organisations with flexible work culture have better success rates for women.
My message to every
wonderful lady reading my article:
“Dear Womum, you are amazing. You are free, you can do everything you want to. You are above every comparison and judgement. Dream and dream big, the success awaits you! “
I hope you found this article helpful. What are your biggest ambition in life? Please do let me know by commenting below.